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My wife has been a with BK since her late teens as she was introduced into BK by her mother.
We started dating around 7 yrs ago and had a intimate relationship during that period she was eating food from outside with no restrictions we were in close physical relationship although she never agreed for sex before marriage. She also told me she stopped eating non vegetarian food and alcohol a little while before we met.
During our dating period she used to go into meditation and stuff even even took me to centre but I never liked it so I stopped going. during that period she mentioned to me a young couple who was married but were living like Brother and Sister or celibacy I completely dismissed that concept. weeks before our marriage she told me to leave a celibate marriage which I again said I don't believe in and nor in BK then she told me she talked with her Father who clarified that is for the Sisters who are committed to centre.
We got married around 4 years ago but had to live on different states due to job demands although I used to come to live with her around 10 days every month. As time passed by she stopped eating food from outside . We had sex with condoms but she started complaining of pain. then she started complaining of stress of work etc to avoid sex.in the meantime she once went to Mt Abu by lying to me and her frequency of going centers kept on increasing. She also started reading more and more of Murlis also watching lot of BK videos/ Sister shivani videos etc. she even once mentioned to me she did not like kissing and sex is punishment although she later backtracked on these statements.
I was indeed shocked asked her to stop Oral contraceptive pills as they can decrease libido. I became angry and frustrated started shouting at her also blaming her involvement with BK. Slowly and slowly we literally started sleeping like strangers on bed . We did had sex because of my insistence but I just felt she was bodily involved but not emotionally. At one point she was very much into oral physical relationship with me before marriage so I just noticed a very drastic changes.
I offered her to got to a doctor and seek counselling which she refused. I called her parents Ina ber told them everything but our relationship kept on falling apart. A few months ago she went to a doctor she got jelly and we had sex as we were planning for kids but still I felt She is only bodily involved .
She told me all this is becoz I failed to support her emotionally during that period and all I wanted was lust or my bodily pleasure and had I told her I can wait for sex till she is ready and accepted her May be she would have done it on her own.
That may be the case but it still does not explain complete food habits or even touching each other kissing etc especially once when she was very actively into it.
I have asked her multiple times very politely and humanely to pls let me know if it has something to do with her BK which she completely denies telling celibacy is for people who live at centers.
Now our marriage is at literally on verge of seperation. her parents want us to live together for 3-6 months. my wife is assuring she will fulfill all obligations of wife . but she will continue her a BK meditation and food habits but I'd we try to go outside she will try to eat from outside too. I asked her as a compromise she can continue her meditation and food habits but should not go to centers or listen to new internet videos or material Of BK which she refused.she even asked we can go together at BK centers and also mentioned they have child care units at Mt abu etc.
I am at crossroads as I really love her. I have a faint hope if we start afresh things may turn around but if I leave her she will be fully immerse into BK.
I have written a very long post as I am going through lot of mental trauma. I will really appreciate if you all can give me way out to handle this.
We started dating around 7 yrs ago and had a intimate relationship during that period she was eating food from outside with no restrictions we were in close physical relationship although she never agreed for sex before marriage. She also told me she stopped eating non vegetarian food and alcohol a little while before we met.
During our dating period she used to go into meditation and stuff even even took me to centre but I never liked it so I stopped going. during that period she mentioned to me a young couple who was married but were living like Brother and Sister or celibacy I completely dismissed that concept. weeks before our marriage she told me to leave a celibate marriage which I again said I don't believe in and nor in BK then she told me she talked with her Father who clarified that is for the Sisters who are committed to centre.
We got married around 4 years ago but had to live on different states due to job demands although I used to come to live with her around 10 days every month. As time passed by she stopped eating food from outside . We had sex with condoms but she started complaining of pain. then she started complaining of stress of work etc to avoid sex.in the meantime she once went to Mt Abu by lying to me and her frequency of going centers kept on increasing. She also started reading more and more of Murlis also watching lot of BK videos/ Sister shivani videos etc. she even once mentioned to me she did not like kissing and sex is punishment although she later backtracked on these statements.
I was indeed shocked asked her to stop Oral contraceptive pills as they can decrease libido. I became angry and frustrated started shouting at her also blaming her involvement with BK. Slowly and slowly we literally started sleeping like strangers on bed . We did had sex because of my insistence but I just felt she was bodily involved but not emotionally. At one point she was very much into oral physical relationship with me before marriage so I just noticed a very drastic changes.
I offered her to got to a doctor and seek counselling which she refused. I called her parents Ina ber told them everything but our relationship kept on falling apart. A few months ago she went to a doctor she got jelly and we had sex as we were planning for kids but still I felt She is only bodily involved .
She told me all this is becoz I failed to support her emotionally during that period and all I wanted was lust or my bodily pleasure and had I told her I can wait for sex till she is ready and accepted her May be she would have done it on her own.
That may be the case but it still does not explain complete food habits or even touching each other kissing etc especially once when she was very actively into it.
I have asked her multiple times very politely and humanely to pls let me know if it has something to do with her BK which she completely denies telling celibacy is for people who live at centers.
Now our marriage is at literally on verge of seperation. her parents want us to live together for 3-6 months. my wife is assuring she will fulfill all obligations of wife . but she will continue her a BK meditation and food habits but I'd we try to go outside she will try to eat from outside too. I asked her as a compromise she can continue her meditation and food habits but should not go to centers or listen to new internet videos or material Of BK which she refused.she even asked we can go together at BK centers and also mentioned they have child care units at Mt abu etc.
I am at crossroads as I really love her. I have a faint hope if we start afresh things may turn around but if I leave her she will be fully immerse into BK.
I have written a very long post as I am going through lot of mental trauma. I will really appreciate if you all can give me way out to handle this.