Morning from me and evening to you Joel. In answer to your post, IMO, "No, there is not".
I'd say the point I am making is that many people I know have bounced from one relationship to the other without trying to sort out their bagagge. In fact, they have used the relationships as excuses for not working out their 'stuff' and expecting their current partner to do it all for them. I'd see this as not being able or willing to take responsibility for themselves in certain ways, without me sounding too uncompassionate here. Can one differentiate between acceptable 'baggage' and that which is unacceptable? I'd say that would depend on our chosen partner and their own processes and needs?
In a way, it's as if people often get stuck in a ever-tightening cycle of emotional fall-out and end up saying they'll never have another relationship again. Only to come out to play the next day to say, "Guess what, I met someone last night and he's sooooo gorgeous" ... and off they go again. and again.
But to try and keep this thread on-subject, is the alternative a permanent relationship with a therapist/s? Hmmmmm ... only if he's, "oh soooo gorgeous" ... . I'd be interested to try forum-explore this aspect a bit more.
I'd say the point I am making is that many people I know have bounced from one relationship to the other without trying to sort out their bagagge. In fact, they have used the relationships as excuses for not working out their 'stuff' and expecting their current partner to do it all for them. I'd see this as not being able or willing to take responsibility for themselves in certain ways, without me sounding too uncompassionate here. Can one differentiate between acceptable 'baggage' and that which is unacceptable? I'd say that would depend on our chosen partner and their own processes and needs?
In a way, it's as if people often get stuck in a ever-tightening cycle of emotional fall-out and end up saying they'll never have another relationship again. Only to come out to play the next day to say, "Guess what, I met someone last night and he's sooooo gorgeous" ... and off they go again. and again.
But to try and keep this thread on-subject, is the alternative a permanent relationship with a therapist/s? Hmmmmm ... only if he's, "oh soooo gorgeous" ... . I'd be interested to try forum-explore this aspect a bit more.