"When the whole world doesn't believe in God, it'll be a great place ... I am exactly the opposite of religious, I am anti-religious. I find religious people hideous. I hate the religious lies. It's all a big lie ... It's not a neurotic thing, but the miserable record of religion — I don't even want to talk about it. It's not interesting to talk about the sheep referred to as believers.
When I write, I am alone. It's filled with fear and loneliness and anxiety — and I never needed religion to save me.
- Philip Roth, novelist
Roth may have been too exaggerated in his views for many - including exiting BKs weaning themselves off the BK god spirit's teat - so let us try a short term experiment in the meanwhile.
Let's try 25 years without all the religious parasites feeding on us, our time and our wallets. 25 years not of "religious freedom", but freedom from religion, just to see what happens ... to see whether the sky falls on our head ... the world comes to an end in doom or nuclear boom ... or whether, in fact, we are all released from a huge imaginary oppressive burden.
For many, exiting BKism can takes a long time so deep is the indoctrination and insecurity. Others, in other cults, have said that recovery is a life time process. Certainly, one can never get back the precious time lost and undo the hurt done to others, the stupid and embarassing decisions made from within their infective delusion.
I hope they do finally wear themselves out but, boy, they take time to, coming back years later to mug you at a vulnerable moment.
It has been our experience, time and time again, that once someone has been infected with BKism, it's almost impossible to snap them out of it. One can only let the disease run its course until the time they get better and can leave.
Perhaps the best thing we can do is just to stop others going in, in the first place. Prevention, rather than a cure. For anyone suffering the loss of a loved one to the Brahma Kumaris, perhaps the best thing you can do is to isolate the patient, protect the family's or partnership's assets from the avariciousness of the BK cult's accountants (to stop it being squandered on their vain follies), and to stop the disease spreading to others in your circle.
Start by at least putting them in a virtual quarantine. Be subtle, but attempt to restrict the BKs access in order prevent them being infected further or re-infected (. This might include effectively stopping their access to the BKs "push technologies" eg email, text, telephone). If that does not work, I have come to the conclusion - and it is open to discussion here, please - that the best thing is to cut them off and cast them out. Accept that they are as dead as the BKs want them to believe - demand that they leave completely and with nothing, but assure them it will all be there for them again if and when they choose to return.
Do not support the addiction of family and friends to BKism in any way. Offer them "tough" conditional love if required ... us or the BKs. Do not compromise with the BKs. Keep the BKs out of your home. Do not accept anything from them. Not even a pleasantry. Do not give them any ground.
The BKs have spent 85 years refining their operation. They will feed your loved ones with tactics and strategies to fool you, to lull you into a false security, to lead you to believe your loved one is still there ... likely they are not.
Inside them, they see you as dead, asleep, ignorant, even evil. Do not be fooled by the well polished mask and PR spin.
BKism is not religion as you understand. You will likely be out of your depth, going in one against many if you try and fight them. They see the world in a black and white "Us and Them" scenario. If your loved one chooses BKism over you, then this is the attitude they too will have adopted.
Help them by making them choose who they want to be. But don't become an enabler for the BKWSU. Let your loved one find out how little the BKWSU cares for them in their own time.
One way or the other. There is no middle ground. If you think they are existing in a middle ground, they are just fooling you, and perhaps themselves.
That is my opinion to date, having watched closely over 12 years of individuals, families, couples and friends being split apart by the BKs.
(In answer to an emailed request for assistance)