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Keep your lips closed
and hips open,
be kind and welcoming.
Unless he’s gay
he’ll come
your way.
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sophiesharma wrote:I recently got married with person who is believing in it and all his family members. They just did not tell us that what they are ...
PP wrote:Keep your lips closed and hips open, be kind and welcoming. Unless he’s gay he’ll come your way.
ex-l wrote:Strict BKs would never marry for no reason, nor marry off their child which suggests to me they are not complete BKs but perhaps just "weekend" or part-time BKs?
Why on earth would the son get married??? Is he weak and dominated by his parents?
Hello wrote:I have just come to the Gyan and I love it , I am married for 10 years and have no children, I love my wife and was planning to have a child before I came to The Knowledge. Now what are my options? My wife is not so much interested in the Murli, but does like Shivani's talks ... Where do I go from here ... Baba says not to have children now as now children are created through sex ( vice), My wife is not ready to accept this ... Where do I go from here ... Leaving her is not an option ... It does not make sense to leave someone who has supported me for so long ...
Baba has said in Murlis for those maatas (mothers) who are in bandhan/bondage the following directions.
1) Be ready to leave your house and work for your own lively-hood. But, never give poison(lust).
2) Tell your husband that- if you need lust, then you may have it from others, you may marry someone, I am ready to be like subordinate in the house.
3) (If the bondage is too high), then lie down with bodiless stage and remember Baba, what else can you do?
4)You may even write to govt demanding that you wish to follow purity (but you should be nashtamoha).
The above Murli points may not be fully applicable in your case, but just shared.
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Baba says- I am your lover since half a Kalpa, you have been doing my Bhakti for half a Kalpa. I am husband of husbands, lover of lovers. I am your Father, mother, teacher, Guru, everything, etc. [Twameva maataashcha pitaa...] If you feel this as real fact (Baba as real Father and mother of you as well as everyone], then you will get will power and determination to move spiritually.
//// do you notice this sophie how good ancient scriptures quotes are used by BK teachers to divert mind & decisions.
So- if possible- better you first do special Yaad for her, say 10 minutes of Yaad everyday for that soul. And- as per your courage, you will receive help from Baba. Then try to educate her. If she does not agree, and you do not wish to hear bad words from your wife*, then last option is to have child. Go for it. [But- better tell your wife that -at present she is not understanding the truth and you are cooperating her because you have respect for her. ]
But- if we get into sex, Baba says- you will not be permitted to Baba's house for next six months. So- come to centre after six months. [Till there, put spiritual efforts at home yourself]. What else can be done? So- as per your pulse, you may choose the medicine.
* - There are a few cases, where initially there would be a great fight between husband and wife, but later the other partner (non BK) had realized the fruit of purity and then cooperated with full heart or fully convinced. But, the former should have enough command over The Knowledge, faith in Baba and drama and karma philosophy and patience.
Save Innocents wrote:Well, it's not funny. Not obviously a good solution given that you already know the seriousness of hard core BKs to follow celibacy. It's also not time to put a joke. It's related to someone's life dear. And this open attitude is not welcomed ...
Lately, BKs have started permitting their followers to marry anyone they wish, but preference to choose BK as partner is stressed.
In India, marriage is compulsion & unmarried guy is seen by society as eunuch, most often. So, to protect reputation, everyone tries to marry ... If the boy is Indian, then obeying parents decision & following it is mot mark of weakness or getting ruled by parents. It's more like gesture of respect towards them.
Voidable Marriages
Voidable marriages are those which are void at the option of the aggrieved party. Such marriages can be annulled by a decree of nullity on any of the following grounds :-
That the marriage has not been consummated owing to the impotence of the Respondent.
That the marriage is been performed with a person of unsound mind or having a mental disorder or suffering from recurrent attacks of epilepsy.
That the consent of the Petitioner or its Guardian was obtained by force or by fraud as to the nature of the ceremony or as to any material fact or circumstances concerning the Respondent.
To succeed on this ground, it is necessary that the Petition must be presented in the Court within one year after the force has ceased to operate or the fraud has been discovered. It is also necessary that after the force has ceased or fraud discovered, the Petitioner has not, with consent, lived with the other side.
ex-l wrote:Is this really true in India? I have not read it officially stated. Do they live together or apart?
call sex "the sword of lust" and "poison"
marriage temple are called "brothels"
mothers who love their children are likened to monkeys.
I cannot see pukka BKs marrying off their children "just for the sake of appearances".
PP wrote:I was not making a joke. I was serious. You mistake style for substance.
Save Innocents wrote:Agree with rest of suggestion of ex-l but that voiding marriage still appear in bad taste. I think it is the last full n final option. No need to hurry to grab it.
PP wrote:I was not making a joke. I was serious. You mistake style for substance.