Talking about stats on Brother/Sister participation? An ex-BK friend was pointing out that even in Bhakti, all religious founders were men. Sure there must be social reasons for that, but maybe they are not the only ones.
Is it a memorial for Pandavs becoming assertive and Yogi souls taking over in the end the corrupt organization??
Abr. Kumar said:
Will the quality of relationship/interaction between male and female ex-BKs be of an altogether more positive dimension than they experience together when on the inside?
Talking about challenges!!
I appreciate and cherish friendships and interactions with Forum members. None of this could happen, neither with orthodox BKs nor with outsiders. We shared similar experiences and are motivated by the common sincere desire for truth and preservation of anything we found beneficial on this path. This makes our relationships invaluable. It doesn't mean easy between ex-s and exiting.
We were perfectionists and have high expectations of each other, although surprisingly ready to tolerate imperfections + even vices from storks and possible Golden Deers that crossed our paths. I think we have to maintain patience and lightness with the other person and remember its a dynamic situation in progress to be curious about. See how it unfolds. We are very vulnerable and subjects to ups and downs. Sometimes everything may seem clear, other times, it’s blurry, plus the guilty feelings for leaving (more or less strong), etc.
Am thinking of all sorts of combinations in partnerships. We cannot expect to be all standing at the same point of realization. But if 2 are exiting, one may blame the other for having pulled him/her into this crazy organization, in case one came first.
Recriminations ... "You destroyed my life!!" The initiator, was probably originally sanctified and put on a pedistal by the follower who was, to begin with, full of gratitude for the introduction to God’s elevated knowledge. In this case, the lesson about remaining beyond praise and defamation, comes very handy! And not only that one!!