Xpose wrote:My Sister has been indulged in this so called baseless Gyan since last four years and now is ready to end her 10 years long relationship and leave everything behind.
I am very sorry to read of your problems. Sadly, problems we have seen repeated time and time again all over the world where the parasitic Brahma Kumari leadership promotes its business ... a sort of "confident trick" that exploits vulnerable people leading them to destroy their lives and hand over all their wealth and property, their family's wealth and property if they can, to the parasitic Brahma Kumari leaders.
I call the Brahma Kumari leaders "parasites" because they do not actually work for their money. They do not carry out an honest business to pay for all their social climbing and self-advertising, luxury retreats etc. They do not actually produce anything or provide any real service to the societies they infect. They just poison the souls of individuals and stupify them ...
make them stupid ... in order to get them to hand over all of their time, money, property and energy.
As you say, one of the prime psychological devices they use to do this, is inducing them to believe that the world is going to end very shortly through hypnotic and self-hypnotic repetition. Once they have induced the belief that the world is going to end in "two to three years" or so ... and have the individual make decisions on that basis ... then it is easy to manipulate and exploit them with their false promises of a high status in heaven after Destruction, palaces of gold and diamonds, a life free of all the little struggles and irritations we face every day, and so on.
Firstly ...
and I am very sorry to write this ... prepare yourself for the worst; that your Sister will not leave or come back, and that any effort to encourage her to do so will only encourage her to hold onto the BKs even more.
Be very gentle and careful with her first, but be very clever protecting her and your family's wealth and property from the greedy Brahma Kumaris. Beware they will even fight you for it, and they will turn her against you and encourage her to fight you for it, if they need to.
So, prepare as if your Sister had died and make sure your mother and Father understand it. This is *precisely* what the Brahma Kumaris teach their adherents ... "to die alive". You, your parents, your family and society will become strangers to her ... strangers, targets to become victims (BK recruits), and then if you question or challenge the BKs ... ENEMIES.
The language of BKism is quite clear ... you are "impure devils", "untouchables", "ignorant". You are at best to be pitied. But they are happy to use you and take any of your money or services.
I must ask, how do your parents feel about all this? Are they likely to be emotionally manipulated by their love and attachment to her? Please understand, the Brahma Kumari parasite leaders teach that such love and attachment is a sin, evil and as she goes deeper into BKism, her love and attachment towards her family will be burnt away. Physical families (lokiks, as they call them) are little more than burdens. I would argue that the love BKs show them back is superficial and artificial and that they lose natural feelings. Relationships become about dominance ... BKism reaching into your family to dominate it, e.g. mothers or widows ending up as servants for the cult.
Therefore, speak to you family about this quietly and seriously and if she choses to surrender to the BKs, prepare in advance protection for the family wealth and property otherwise it will end up going straight to the BKs. If or *WHEN* it comes to the final decision point, you must make it equally clear to her that if she leave, she leaves, she is dead and gets nothing ... until she is ready to 100% renounce and leave the BKs. It will be tough but this is how it is.
It probably won't bother her. It will probably only encourage her because she will feel like a martyr and be grateful for the freedom. Ultimately, it will probably be less hurtful for your parents who have brought her up and provided for her all this time.
Don't feed the BK parasite.Then how to approach her?
What is the history? Have there been talks in the past? Have their been conflicts? How deeply is she involved, e.g. morning class, morning meditation, service ... giving money to the centre etc?
I don't know so I can only add general advice to what Pink Panther has said above.
You can only be very gentle and loveful towards her because she will be prepare by the BKs with all sorts of arguments, excuses and brainwashing. She has been told a false history of the cult, the teachings of the cult have and are still being twisted and manipulated to keep adherents trapped. She may be experiencing strong effects from the meditation and lifestyle; anything from feelings of lightness, visions of light, waves of emotions, unnatural highs which she will equate to being "given by god".
Firstly, be clear in your mind that the "god" she speaks about is not your god, nor anyone else's. It is something completely separate. Protect yourself from the manipulative use of language and *Do Not* engage with her or, worse, argue about it. It is a waste of time. BKs encourage their belief by attempting to encourage others to believe. By repeating time and time and time and time again ... the same simple mantras. One cannot call it "Gyan" (knowledge) because there is none. It is idiotic brainwash developed to be appealing as a simple hook to catch people with and they have developed many trick answers and strategies to confuse people.
Don't argue. Don't encourage her to speak about it. I would say, don't accept any BK literature, gifts, posters, pictures *ANYTHING* in the house. Make it clear, your family is about your family. DOn't let the Brahma Kumaris invade your house via her. But try and encourage her to think rationally, analytically, and to question what she is being told, e.g. how a 5,000 year Cycle, why all the lies about their history, how can an age of truth be built out of such lies etc.
Again, this is why I say, "parasites". The Brahma Kumaris want to seep through society infecting household by household like parasites in the water supply.They don't kill their victims physically, just mentally and turn them into their mental slaves.
Once they are *infected*, they become *infectious* and will seek to infect others, anyone; children, old people, next door neighbour, local temples etc etc etc. What they say is, "
conquering the world 3 square feet at a time", e.g. person by person.
Therefore, treat them as such. I am really serious. (One trick they will do is coming round in pairs or groups and bringing "Seniors" who have an even stronger infection power ... who know more mental tricks to hook people with).
So *inoculate* yourself against this disease, like a doctor, by learning more about it.When you are prepared, and your parents and family are ready for the worst and to protect your property and wealthy etc from the Brahma Kumaris bankers, you can try and speak to her to awaken her back up again. But consider it is like trying to speak to someone on drugs ... until the drugs wear off. The BKs being the "drug pushers".
You can honestly say to her that you have researched the cult and spoken to people who have watched it and been involved with it over 30 or 40 years and tell her that they have been making false predictions of the End of World for decades. That it is just a trick they use to control people. That they have failed many times and it is now impossible for the predictions to take place (...
Krishna to be born, crowned Narayan, and Heaven on Earth to arrive by 2036).
Parasitism is a non-mutual relationship between species, where one species - the parasite (BKs) - benefit themselves at the cost of another - the host (non-BKs, BK followers).
Unlike 'predators', parasites do not kill their host and will often live off their host for an extended period. Parasites show a high degree of specialization, and reproduce at a faster rate than their hosts.
Parasites reduce the fitness of their hosts by general or specialized illnesses to modify their hosts' behaviour. Parasites increase their fitness by exploiting hosts for resources necessary for their survival, e.g. food, water, heat, habitat, and transmission of disease.
In many cases, it is difficult to demonstrate that the host is harmed. In others, there may be no apparent specialization on the part of the parasite, or the interaction between the organisms may be short-lived.
People do leave the BKs but it may take some time until they see through them, as Pink Panther kindly shared his experience.
In such a case, your family can affirm to your Sister that they will accept her back and help her ... WHEN AND ONLY WHEN ... she rejects BKism completely (she will defy that completely and protest that she will NEVER leave as a proof of faith).
You do not want the disease in your family to infect others. Personally ... and others might disagree ... I would say you might have to make the sacrifice to safeguard others from catching it. You do not want to feed her and the BKs or have them living off your family. (The BKs will claim it is earning good karma for you to feed them with what they want and your Sister is likely even to steal from your family to do so. It does happen!!!)
Can you say anything more about her relationship? Is she married, or is it just a boyfriend? How does he feel about this? Presumably they have already stopped her making love to him or showing natural affection?
Good luck ...