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Hi All,
I am new to this forum but quite used to the teachings of Brahmakumaris. Especially I love to watch Sister Shivani's programs on Astha and Sanskar. She is just amazing and explains everything so nicely and logically as well. Actually since a long time I wanted to discuss my life issues with you and, finally, I am here. Hope I'll get a proper guidance from you guys.
So my issues are related to the relationship with my husband. We got (arranged) married in 2002 with a lot of cultural and personality differences. Basically I am very independent, feministic and idealistic natured woman who comes from a family with very few rituals and traditions. And he is just opposite to that ... very dependent on his family for every decision, belongs to a very orthodox family though himself doesn't follow anything and a little conservative, short temper in nature. And more of all, he is not expressive at all. He is very poor in communication.
However, we had our own share of ups and downs throughout these 11 years of courtship. We are also blessed with two bright sons aged 9 yrs and 6 yrs. Now, the problem is I always wanted to work and be financially independent. I started working since 2010 on a part-time basis so that I can make balance between my home and work. But he is not liking it at all. In fact, he doesn't like anything about me. Well, that's what I feel. So gradually he has stopped talking to me. We hardly talk to each other. Since few days, we're also sleeping in different rooms.
Therefore, I am feeling very left out, hurt and lonely. I am simply confused about what to do in such a situation. I seriously want to work on it and transform this relationship into a better one in this life time only. But don't know how and where to start. Whenever I am trying to take one step forward something or other is happening which pushes me two step backward creating more distance between us. Is it some kind of nature's call to stay away from it, or is it something related to my karmic account which can not be changed?
Please, please, throw some light on it from the spritual point of view and on how to handle this situation.
Thanks and Regards,
Swagatika.
I am new to this forum but quite used to the teachings of Brahmakumaris. Especially I love to watch Sister Shivani's programs on Astha and Sanskar. She is just amazing and explains everything so nicely and logically as well. Actually since a long time I wanted to discuss my life issues with you and, finally, I am here. Hope I'll get a proper guidance from you guys.
So my issues are related to the relationship with my husband. We got (arranged) married in 2002 with a lot of cultural and personality differences. Basically I am very independent, feministic and idealistic natured woman who comes from a family with very few rituals and traditions. And he is just opposite to that ... very dependent on his family for every decision, belongs to a very orthodox family though himself doesn't follow anything and a little conservative, short temper in nature. And more of all, he is not expressive at all. He is very poor in communication.
However, we had our own share of ups and downs throughout these 11 years of courtship. We are also blessed with two bright sons aged 9 yrs and 6 yrs. Now, the problem is I always wanted to work and be financially independent. I started working since 2010 on a part-time basis so that I can make balance between my home and work. But he is not liking it at all. In fact, he doesn't like anything about me. Well, that's what I feel. So gradually he has stopped talking to me. We hardly talk to each other. Since few days, we're also sleeping in different rooms.
Therefore, I am feeling very left out, hurt and lonely. I am simply confused about what to do in such a situation. I seriously want to work on it and transform this relationship into a better one in this life time only. But don't know how and where to start. Whenever I am trying to take one step forward something or other is happening which pushes me two step backward creating more distance between us. Is it some kind of nature's call to stay away from it, or is it something related to my karmic account which can not be changed?
Please, please, throw some light on it from the spritual point of view and on how to handle this situation.
Thanks and Regards,
Swagatika.