Re: Marriage in jeopardy
Posted: 19 Aug 2015
Insightful quote on cults there ex-l.
Another facet of the nasty hypocrisy of the BKs expounding celibacy as highest virtue then advising wives (or husbands?) to "lie back and think of England" or Baba, or that they are clearing karma (or, another one I’ve heard, being ‘an instrument’ to give birth to "Advance Party soul”) is this.
Any senior BK who advises another BK to ”allow” sex for the sake of the marriage or whatever knows that, according to BK philosophy, the non-celibate BK will take a lower ”number in the rosary” i.e. a lower status.
Many BKs are encouraged to do the institution’s work with the promise that they are "creating their fortune, creating their kingdom by creating subjects" thereby gaining ”high status”.
Once you’ve bought into the BK narrative (fairy tale) of caste and hierarachy, you must accept all of it. "God" says so, it's 'Sri Mat'.
So if your wife’s BK teachers tell her to ”allow sex” but to keep her heart and mind on God, they are telling her that she should accept a lower level of ”spirituality" than they would. They are instructing her to place herself below them as a lower status subject, at their feet, to serve them in the next life.
You present her as intelligent. She needs to understand the implications of BK teachings. If she believes and understands , she would not compromise. Either its true or its not.
If its ‘true', she can’t pretend she can be giving full love and affection to ”Baba” while compromising so-called ”purity” and merely role-playing/acting ”the good wife and mother”.
That is called ”absent parenting” (there can be emotional absence as well as physical absence) which leads to much damage to herself, but in children in particular. Does she really understand her choices and their consequences?
The good news is that by leaving the BK 'contract', not accepting those hypocritical values and in choosing to honour Life here and now fully, she can experience emotional and spiritual fulfilment, where BK spirituality treats you like a donkey, chasing a carrot of fulfilment they dangle in front while they use your money & labour to their (real or imagined) benefit.
Another facet of the nasty hypocrisy of the BKs expounding celibacy as highest virtue then advising wives (or husbands?) to "lie back and think of England" or Baba, or that they are clearing karma (or, another one I’ve heard, being ‘an instrument’ to give birth to "Advance Party soul”) is this.
Any senior BK who advises another BK to ”allow” sex for the sake of the marriage or whatever knows that, according to BK philosophy, the non-celibate BK will take a lower ”number in the rosary” i.e. a lower status.
Many BKs are encouraged to do the institution’s work with the promise that they are "creating their fortune, creating their kingdom by creating subjects" thereby gaining ”high status”.
Once you’ve bought into the BK narrative (fairy tale) of caste and hierarachy, you must accept all of it. "God" says so, it's 'Sri Mat'.
So if your wife’s BK teachers tell her to ”allow sex” but to keep her heart and mind on God, they are telling her that she should accept a lower level of ”spirituality" than they would. They are instructing her to place herself below them as a lower status subject, at their feet, to serve them in the next life.
You present her as intelligent. She needs to understand the implications of BK teachings. If she believes and understands , she would not compromise. Either its true or its not.
If its ‘true', she can’t pretend she can be giving full love and affection to ”Baba” while compromising so-called ”purity” and merely role-playing/acting ”the good wife and mother”.
That is called ”absent parenting” (there can be emotional absence as well as physical absence) which leads to much damage to herself, but in children in particular. Does she really understand her choices and their consequences?
The good news is that by leaving the BK 'contract', not accepting those hypocritical values and in choosing to honour Life here and now fully, she can experience emotional and spiritual fulfilment, where BK spirituality treats you like a donkey, chasing a carrot of fulfilment they dangle in front while they use your money & labour to their (real or imagined) benefit.