Later, I had time to rejoin life, heal family fractures etc. Plenty rich now, ooops ... and happy ...
One thing I had already learnt before joining the BKs which may have contributed to staying involved as long as I did was that I knew how to live frugally. This suited the BK lifestyle. I never chased wealth. And when, like the Sex Pistols, the BKs convinced me there was
no future I often turned down opportunities that would have laid foundations for a better life.
The bigger gift for building a life came from my Father who helped me with the deposit to get a mortgage to a buy an old house. His Depression-era generation were all about working hard, hoarding and saving. I initially refused his offer - I was still identifying as a BK at the time, the Cold War hadn't quite ended and
Vinash is always a possibility i'n'it?
But he insisted, saying he had helped my siblings already and I was the last one that he'd not helped in any substantial financial way. He argued that despite the "bondage" that a mortgage appears to be, it would actually give me security and freedom I'd only come to appreciate later. So I accepted. He was right. The stake I had, this utilitarian asset I had, gave me leverage to navigate and survive the hard game of capitalism whose rules we're all forced to play by and in which there are inevitably many casualties.
I am still fixing the place up half a lifetime later (!) gotten married, had a child who's now an admirable adult. We've continued to live frugally - refinanced the mortgage a number of times, the "line of credit" has enabled me to live simply and also to get out of emergencies I would otherwise not have been able to so easily. And, more importantly, we've also been able to, as my parents so often did, help others to simply live.
My main point here is that when it comes to the basics - the foundations on which a life can be built - the BKs are takers, not givers. They much prefer already materially-established upper and middle class converts who will swap their material excess for some intangible short-lived feel-good fluff. (I have seen BKs of senior rank show overt disdain and disrepect to BKs from poorer demographics - and lower caste - many times).
What people bring to BKs and take from BKs is a reflection of who they are and what they need. What the BK organisation, based on its teachings, does when it is doing well is turn free-thinking adults into Baba-dependent children, to stay attached to their Baba, give all to Baba.
A good parent gives what they have to their child, they give them the means and encourage them to leave the nest, to live freely and independently, to serve others and the next generation the way they were served.
To pay it forward. With BKs there is no
forward. Your future is secured (says the shonky insurance guy) only by
paying it backward, to the yugya. And you'll need to keep paying, the premium you pay only covers you up to this moment, it needs scheduled transfers of mind, money and energy daily.