Yes, I think it is good advice, in the first place, to take what you think is most suitable from this site and filter out the rest. We really need to make a simple leaflet people can download and print out to give to 'friends and family of' to protect themselves, or individuals being enculted into the Brahmakumaris in order to warn them, wake them up again.
But be aware, to quote the parents of one of the first Western BKs
"the only thing the Brahma Kumaris taught our son to do was lie [to us]"
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And lie well. Like you say, they will be initially be fooled by what is going on and then deliberately be fooled. I know this because I was directly instructed on how to do so (fool or lie to my family and exploit legalities) by some very high ranking BKs. It is their policy.
It's a very difficult call to make. In my opinion, the BKs are exploiting his depression and will slowly cook him into becoming a BK and utterly and unquestioningly surrender to them.
However, on the outsides of their cult ... the facade ... the simple, gentle, sensitive environment where your friends are not pressurised by family members, bosses, superiors, work or relationship issues is attractive to weaker or sensitive individuals who find the real world difficult for whatever reasons.
It is a failing of society today that on one hand it is rough and demanding; and, on the other hand, it has very few resources to help such individuals become better and stronger. You might have to look at the root causes whether they are individual (chemical, biological, sexual, e.g. marital pressure or latent homosexuality), familial (unhappiness within the family), or even societal (caste and cultural).
Perhaps you can get him to talk and explore those?
Be aware though, the BKs give such individuals a new narrative, a new mental story, which takes their problem and turns it into a valuable path to their god ... as I remember one of the first high profile BKs to leave the BKWSU said to me,
"The BKs told me to believe I was strong and special [to surrender to them], but I realise now I was just weak, frightened and confused".
This was an individual being groomed to becoming one of the inner circle. They left and started to rebuild their life for real.
BKism, like all other "happy, smiley cults", gives such individuals a ready made mask to hide behind whilst they address ... or do not address ... the personal and psychological problems they have. Think this, do that, wear this, speak this way, walk this way, eat this way, only associate with these people ... it provides them a total, alternative identity to the one they were not happy in.If they do not address those issues, they will become sucked deeper and deeper into BKism and may, like drug addicts, change from being a victim ... a drug user ... to becoming a drug dealer or pusher to support their habit.
Those that do address those issues we soon see through what is going on and leave. The sooner the better.
It's another failing that society does not provide *safe* ashrams for people to go to. Perhaps that is what they really need and you can give ... to be sent away somewhere and given time to think and sort themselves out from what they are trying to escape from internally, e.g. invite them to move out of their home and stay somewhere else.
However, if they have already been infected by the BK virus, they will probably just use that time to go even deeper into BK addiction.
I would say that his new found eating disorder is a symptom that the BK virus is getting deep into him. They tell him he cannot eat your food because you are impure and your (or cooks) vibrations will pull him down.
To begin with they will say, "OK, eat your family's food in remembrance as it is cooked with love" ... but eventually they will stop or wean him off that too.
They work on a 'slowly, slowly catchee monkey' strategy ... "taking the pulse" so see how far they can push any individual at any given time. Slowly pushing them further and further until, bang, they have them 100%.
At that point all the family can do is protect their own money and property because that is what the BKs will be after next.Any money or property they have, or give to the individual, will go to the Brahma Kumaris ... therefore, unfortunately, at that point the only thing to do is cut the individual off entirely.
Trust me, we have seen it time and time again ... we have even seen BK adherents becoming enraged when they don't get money to give, stealing food and items to give to the BKs, neglecting their children, fighting legal battles over properties, supporting centre leaders to do credit card frauds etc etc etc.