Somehow this topic moved to one of anger and should or shouldn't one express it.
If I first create anger through my response to anything and then bring in a value system that says anger is not good and should not be expressed difficulties arise. The ideal is not to create angry thoughts in the first place. To go deep into the basis by which I create thought is essential and a prerequisite for attaining self control. To watch the whole anger process calmly and deliberately and to become clear about what one is doing takes time.
When a person understands that anger is an undesirable quality and makes effort to change a constructive way of getting the anger already created out of ones system is necessary. One way that could be fun is to pick on the biggest meanest strongest brute you can find and pick a fight with them.
I personally find that an antidote is much less painful. Supression is not good, if a cycle of anger supression, anger supression continues one does not have to be a nuclear physicist to realise that psychological problems will result.
So what does one do? A few suggestions.
1) Do not beat yourself up..anger is OK!
2) Understand that you are in a learning situation and take your time to make things clear.
3) Replay the situation and your response over and over, if you find you are getting angrier leave it and think peaceful thoughts instead, if you find you are observing that situation more and more with each replay then continue.
4) An outcome of this practice will be that you become clearer about how you create anger and the effect of anger, this clarity saves a lot of energy and other options will begin to pop up in future situations.
5) Control of our thought creation is the topic. As the thought so the destination, each thought is a cause.
6) A caution - Never use force in the world of mind! Be kind and patient with yourself at all times. Clarity is the aim.
7) The power of forgiveness is a soothing balm, to forgive others is good, to forgive ourselves is better.
I am not suggesting that one becomes a namby pamby or a doormat here. The point of conquering anger is that energy is no longer wasted, one becomes stronger and more able to shape ones own world with a far wider range of choices.
9) Occassionally one may be in a recurring bull-baiting situation where anger from you is the desired response. If that happens do the replay routine (point 3) for a time and then one day after the person has done their bit smile as if nothing has happened and offer them a cup of tea.
10) At first these ideas take time, as you go through the process and near the source of your thought creation you will be much more powerful and the whole process will take no time at all.
To have an aim of conquering anger is a remarkable inspiration, from the above it may become clear to you that I have had to deal with many of my own anger issues and that my way works. As such I am a VIP and if you do not accord me the respect that I deserve be it on your own head when I get angry with you.
Dash, I got it wrong again!
ps point 8 has somehow come out as "cool", I've tried editing it with no change