Re: I want my spouse not to believe
Posted: 29 Aug 2014
Yes, they took a dowry from our family.
I do not know that whether he wants to become totally, or not, but when I asked him about his hostel life he just told me that he was a big drinker smoker and not doing Yoga etc but before marriage his mother asked him to do so and from then he is doing. I just didn’t ask him whether he totally agrees with BK or not, as he never forced me to do so that’s why, but I cannot make a healthy life in this situation.
I think his mother asks him to do so and he is doing he also doing something Bhog etc to the picture of an old age (with red light) person. And they just clipped the same light even on tv, fridge, vehicle, gate etc every where. Seriously, I didn’t ask to my husband whether is believing purity or it is a formal way to impress his mother. But I think so, if his mother stops calling or teaching him like that then he will not. I want to know how can I handle his mother.
Firstly, I was hoping that it is not so much a serious matter. I thought he is doing, let him do, but I won’t. But now I am aware about this. But I think if I will say to his mother to not to speak Murli over phone, he will get angry at me for behaving like this because his mother has total command over him. And also he used to watch TV on mute and playing games on phone when his mother speak Murli. But this will happen only for 2 months. In October, she will come to Delhi and then will teach again, and after that he will do same for the long period. All the day they used to say bababababababa.
You know, sometimes I used to smile on this foolish things that to being an engineer how can he do the same (some old fashioned thing). Actually, I am an engineer too.
You know his mother used to make call between 10 to 10.30 and speak Murli and talk as long as she can so that we could not give time to each other. Firstly, he openned the speaker of phone to let me listen to the same but later that I refused, so not now.
But the more diplomatic situation is that whenever I used to say anything against his family he just become animal like and scream at me.
They took me to Mount Abu just before Golden Night. That time I was not aware and hoping that husband is not also involved in it. And I thought that in her old age, the mother is doing so.
You said
But how?
I do not know that whether he wants to become totally, or not, but when I asked him about his hostel life he just told me that he was a big drinker smoker and not doing Yoga etc but before marriage his mother asked him to do so and from then he is doing. I just didn’t ask him whether he totally agrees with BK or not, as he never forced me to do so that’s why, but I cannot make a healthy life in this situation.
I think his mother asks him to do so and he is doing he also doing something Bhog etc to the picture of an old age (with red light) person. And they just clipped the same light even on tv, fridge, vehicle, gate etc every where. Seriously, I didn’t ask to my husband whether is believing purity or it is a formal way to impress his mother. But I think so, if his mother stops calling or teaching him like that then he will not. I want to know how can I handle his mother.
Firstly, I was hoping that it is not so much a serious matter. I thought he is doing, let him do, but I won’t. But now I am aware about this. But I think if I will say to his mother to not to speak Murli over phone, he will get angry at me for behaving like this because his mother has total command over him. And also he used to watch TV on mute and playing games on phone when his mother speak Murli. But this will happen only for 2 months. In October, she will come to Delhi and then will teach again, and after that he will do same for the long period. All the day they used to say bababababababa.
You know, sometimes I used to smile on this foolish things that to being an engineer how can he do the same (some old fashioned thing). Actually, I am an engineer too.
You know his mother used to make call between 10 to 10.30 and speak Murli and talk as long as she can so that we could not give time to each other. Firstly, he openned the speaker of phone to let me listen to the same but later that I refused, so not now.
But the more diplomatic situation is that whenever I used to say anything against his family he just become animal like and scream at me.
They took me to Mount Abu just before Golden Night. That time I was not aware and hoping that husband is not also involved in it. And I thought that in her old age, the mother is doing so.
You said
You must stop the mother calling him 100%. That would be the starting point.
But how?