For me it seems that the majority of human beings, when adorning themself with a title of some description, cease to think about the qualifications needed to be a good ... Just as in the case of a BK. Or if ever I think of myself as a good teacher or mother ,,, then the danger is that I do not look at that again to make sure it remains good, or that it really was good in the first place. To me, the best
karma we can do is one that is filled with pure love. Then again what is pure or true love? So many easily say, I didnt do this for me or it was selfless what I did. To make it look really gross, I think that human beings have a points score that we find difficult to ignore. We get points for maybe the way we look, or maybe whether we are kind, or humble or worthy etc. In other words, if love is for a reason then I find it hard to accept that as the highest form of love. Cue for a song, "love me for a reason let the reason be love".
A dear friend of mine spends 1000s of pounds on his wife's every birthday, christmas and throughout the year if he can. When his birthday comes around he gets some strawberry plants. He suffers with high blood pressure, works a 60 hour week while she is over the farm riding her horse. Recently she asked for a second horse in case horse A goes lame. She doesnt have sex with him anymore. He feels his love is selfless and that she is the most selfish woman on the earth <his words>. He arrives home to find a half-cooked potato in the microwave for his supper ... I said to him, as soon as you expressed to your sub conscious that you are selfless and she is selfish, you put a fire in your belly that could easily drive you apart. Now you view her like that for a long time to come.
I think the sub-conscious annoyingly clocks up what we do, it remembers what weve done and so I personally do not believe in selfless love between human beings because I think we take our cut. Although one could say they did good
karma for someone or even for themself, if they do not get something for that effort then for how long will they do that? Further, I think that true love doesnt stop loving and therefore doesnt stop giving. I do not feel comfortable with the statement, "I love them, I just do not like them at the moment". Nor do i feel there is pure love for or from many yogis. No, if it starts for a reason, then it can stop for a reason. I think personally that
karma is heightened through pure love, whatever that is
As in the case of the Dadis, many yogis see some virtue or quality or in them thats missing in themselves and I guess instead of developing that quality they just worship them. Perhaps a bit of Bhakti comes easier to us. So we are in danger of doing stuff for them and all sorts of traps lay in wait for us.