This is a strong post.
It gives me a new perspective. It seems that I, like many, got used to the idea to 'blame' it all to myself and start looking to my past and my unfulfilled hopes and dreams. Thinking this must have been the reason why I was sucked in, stayed and got stuck.
To me, it seems that group behavior is an important factor. Everyone has skills to merge themselves within a group, adopt habits, ways of thinking and behave accordingly because it serves the group. In itself it is not a bad thing, it is completely natural. One becomes 'part' of something. The trouble is that the strength of the group depends on the skills of the leaders. They set the directions, they decide to go left or right. Good group leaders will provide everything to make sure the group as a whole can grow, feels save, is healthy. Bad group leaders have politics of divide and conquer. They make sure their power grows at the expense of the rest.
Being part of a group, one cannot leave just like that. The loyalty is strong so one keeps hoping one day there will be a better leader. If it gets too bad, revolution takes place. What maybe is about to happen within the BKWSU.
Could it be fear? Afraid to be left alone ... I mean who wants to be alone? It feels so vulnerable. And who is looking forward to build up their lives again from scratch?
Besides: I don't think we always make decisions based on what serves us. How do we know what serves us? It seems a lot of decisions are made by what we are used to or what is expected from us.
ex-l wrote: I don't think we we fooled ourselves into believing the Brahma Kumaris. We WERE fooled.
It gives me a new perspective. It seems that I, like many, got used to the idea to 'blame' it all to myself and start looking to my past and my unfulfilled hopes and dreams. Thinking this must have been the reason why I was sucked in, stayed and got stuck.
This idea that "we are all entirely responsible for 'everything' that happens to us" is ridiculously insane and hyberbolic.
To me, it seems that group behavior is an important factor. Everyone has skills to merge themselves within a group, adopt habits, ways of thinking and behave accordingly because it serves the group. In itself it is not a bad thing, it is completely natural. One becomes 'part' of something. The trouble is that the strength of the group depends on the skills of the leaders. They set the directions, they decide to go left or right. Good group leaders will provide everything to make sure the group as a whole can grow, feels save, is healthy. Bad group leaders have politics of divide and conquer. They make sure their power grows at the expense of the rest.
Being part of a group, one cannot leave just like that. The loyalty is strong so one keeps hoping one day there will be a better leader. If it gets too bad, revolution takes place. What maybe is about to happen within the BKWSU.
What we need to be aware of is our human tendency to "stuckness", and sticking to things even beyond the point that they do not serve us, harm us and the world around us, or are clearly bonkers.
Could it be fear? Afraid to be left alone ... I mean who wants to be alone? It feels so vulnerable. And who is looking forward to build up their lives again from scratch?
Besides: I don't think we always make decisions based on what serves us. How do we know what serves us? It seems a lot of decisions are made by what we are used to or what is expected from us.