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Firstly, there are few positive aspects as well and I do appreciate efforts to bring these out:
- 1. The forum provides a platform for interaction between ex-BKs. Leaving the BK path is not easy and when you know there are others in the same boat, it comes as a big relief.
2. The forum has brought out a new dimension of BKWSU history and some facts that may haven't been known to many BKs and potentially forced some BKs to reform the organization which is a good outcome.
But unfortunately all of this gets fazed under the "propaganda" in a "tabloid" and "sensationalist" style through misrepresenting and exaggerating - this reflects some sort of mission to destroy BKWSU (image) by any means.
- 1. In a view to advise family members of BKs, often only one side view is taken and advise is given as if it is coming from a relationship counsellor. The family members are fed exaggerated and draconian picture of BKs. If a relationship is about to break because of someone in family taking a BK path, this is like adding fuel to the fire and create further antagonism in the family! There is no evidence that such unprofessional counselling has saved any family relationship - is it not? In my view this is quite dangerous in relationship matters.
2. Typically the family members of Indian BKs come on this forum. Western ex-BKs advise them on the relationships between husband /wife and so on without understanding and experience of the full cultural context of how relationships work or break in India!
3. And the biggest facade is the below:
BK info wrote:This forum is to support ex-BKs, those BKs who want to leave and are exiting, and the friends and family members of BKs.
This is good work provided this is the real intention of the forum but it is a lie which can easily be understood by reading 10-20 posts on the forum. How?
a. "to support ex-BKs": When a person wants to exit, giving them a platform to express is great but here advantage is taken of their vulnerability in that state and a lot of negativity is fed against what they want to leave and spreading antagonism against BKs. Imagine in broken relationships when one partner wants to leave, insistent complaining and criticising about other partner may be temporarily a relief but it makes the scar wider and longer in the heart! If the true intention was to support ex-BKs, there would have been a some encourgement for those people who have left BKs without any negativity against them and moved on! Encouragement is only provided to those who can criticise, complain and demonize BKs.
b. "those BKs who want to leave and are exiting": BKs are not encouraged in this forum generally so what does this mean? Leaving or joining BK path is an individual's choice, is not it an undue influence on people?
c. "and the friends and family members of BKs": Except feeding negativity about BKs, what support have you provided to family members? How many families have you saved from breaking and built harmony ?
4. BK knowledge is presented as if its all about Destruction completely overlooking the efforts of thousands of spiritual aspirants towards self improvement, transformation and purification; for whom BKism makes perfect sense and they have accepted it with full sincerity and made a conscious choice.
5. BK knowledge is presented as if its all about Destruction completely overlooking the benefits of BK meditation which have been experienced by thousands to overcome stress and achieve better mental and physical health. There are hundreds of examples where BKs have done excellent work to save lives by scientific application of meditation. Please read below experiences of non-BKs who got benefitted and tell me what's wrong with this?
6. Name of the website itself is to attract people searching about brahmakumaris on the internet! Many newcomers come to this website not by choice but get misled that this may be the Brahmakumaris web-site! And what is offered to newcomers who knew nothing about Brahmakumaris before - of course, persuasion to stay away from BKs. How does someone know whether contact with the BKs would have been good to such newcomers or bad? In the times of increasing stress, more and more people are looking for solutions and for many that solution may be lying with the BKs. This is why the title of the website should be changed if the intention is how it is stated. Has any newcomer being honestly told that this is not the official Brahmakumaris web-site?
7. If the real intention was "to support ex-BKs, those BKs who want to leave and are exiting, and the friends and family members of BKs", then why does the website show "Truth about BKWSU", "independent thought about BKWSU" and not "A support forum for ex-BKs, exiting BKs and friends and family members"?